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Emotions (21: Loneliness)

LONELINESS There are so many lonely people today, especially in our big cities. The needs of human beings span a spectrum, at one end of which is a need to be alone and to enjoy our own space; at the other end is a need for company and the...

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Emotions (20: Jealousy)

JEALOUSY Jealousy is a good friend because it helps us to define what we want, especially what we subconsciously want, yet may not know consciously. Seven years ago in the late spring we moved into a lovely rented home in Sydney's North Shore...

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Emotions (19: Insecurity)

INSECURITY We can try to run away from, rise above, and suppress this feeling, but no matter what we do, insecurity will always win out and get us in the end. It is a part of our make-up and it is a cue that we could choose to step out of our...

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Emotions (18: Inferiority | Superiority)

INFERIORITY/SUPERIORITY These two feelings look and feel very different, but in fact they are the same. Feeling inferior is believing that "I am not good enough", and feeling superior is rising above that same seed thought (which is often...

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Emotions (17: Inadequacy)

INADEQUACY Most adults and teenagers have a fear of looking foolish and inadequate in the presence of others. Thank goodness young children have not yet learned that inadequacy is not-okay. If they were born with that belief, they would find it...

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Emotions (16: Impatience)

IMPATIENCE Doctor Edward Bach, the Welshman who gave us the Bach flower remedies earlier this century believed that the essences of certain flowers acted as natural healing remedies to bring emotions back into balance. He said that the flowers...

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Emotions (15: Hurt and Pain)

HURT AND PAIN No one likes to feel emotional or physical pain, so medicines have been invented to block out both. People use alcohol, prescription and illegal drugs to medicate and numb their emotional pain. Why do we have so much pain and hurt...

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Emotions (14: Guilt)

GUILT All of us have personal standards, conscious and unconscious, by which we live our lives. These standards (such as honesty, non-violence, tidiness and punctuality) reflect the internal values we learned as children. Unlike the animal and...

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Emotions (13: Grief)

GRIEF Much has been written about grief. Grief is the experience of separation we need to go through in order to come back into balance after the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship. We can also feel grief for lost possessions,...

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Emotions (12: Manipulation)

MANIPULATION Manipulation involves maneuvering others—overtly or covertly—in order to get what you want. Wherever there is evidence of manipulation in relationships, you can be sure someone is playing "control" games. These games can be very...

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Emotions (11: Worry)

WORRY Worry, as a separating emotion, serves to inform us that we are not trusting ourselves, others or life. Because of this lack of trust we try to keep a tight rein at all times. Worry is also a true sign that we are living in the past or...

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Emotions (10: Anxiety)

ANXIETY Three relatives in the fear family are the separating emotions of Anxiety, Worry, and Manipulation. These are at the heart of so many problems simply because people don't understand why they are feeling them. Just think of all the...

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Emotions (9: Fear and Fear of Death)

FEAR The primary positive purpose of the "separatory emotion" of fear is our self-preservation. Today many people are buying and installing burglar alarms, smoke alarms and other sophisticated devices. Yet human beings innately possess the best...

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Emotions (8: Exhaustion)

EXHAUSTIONWhen exhaustion occurs, we look and feel like a flat tyre. Why does this happen? We run on energy which is partly - made up of air, food and water. When this energy runs low, tiredness and exhaustion are telling us to conserve and...

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Emotions (7: Despair)

DESPAIRDespair occurs when we have given away all our power and given up hope. When we are in the pits of despair and we "bottom out", this is a clear message that it is time to reassess where we are at, to jettison whatever is no longer...

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Emotions (6: Depression)

DEPRESSION A vast amount of clinical research has been done about depression. We are not going to give a scientific analysis of depression here, but rather examine the syndrome within the context of separating emotions. Depression is a frozen...

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Emotions (5: Blame)

BLAME When we blame, essentially we are saying to ourselves and others that what happens to us is our fault and/or another's fault. Blaming is something we all do and it can be a way we sometimes choose not to take responsibility for our lives....

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Emotions (4: Aggression)

AGGRESSION Aggression looks and feels very threatening when we are not comfortable with our own anger. Aggression, like separation, has a bad image. The literal definition of aggression, surprisingly, has nothing to do with anger. The word...

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Emotions (3: Hatred)

HATRED Hatred is an acute form of anger. Hatred is extreme powerlessness. Like cancer, hatred eats us up inside. It is released and healed only when we accept and feel this strong emotion. Then we can cease to blame ourselves and others as we...

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Emotions (2: Resentment)

RESENTMENT Resentment is long-standing anger and very destructive to the body. It keeps the anger simmering away just under the surface. Sometimes we keep our resentment rather than taking responsibility for our hurt, and doing something about...

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Emotions (1: Anger)

ANGER All of us have some experience of anger and other members of the anger family—resentment, hatred and aggression. When anger is resisted it builds up, becomes volatile and can cause a lot of damage to ourselves and others. Many people have been hurt...

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The Benefits of Meditation in Daily Life

Meditation is an essential tool that is taught during our seminars, and a practice that has numerous benefits when used frequently in daily life. Free To Be Me seminars focus on guided meditations, aimed at de-stressing and relaxation, as well...

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True Lies (1)

Lie number 1: Alone means lonely ‘Alone’ doesn’t always mean lonely, and ‘relationship’ doesn’t always mean happy. Being alone will never cause as much loneliness as the wrong relationship. If things don’t feel right, take a break and spend...

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True Lies (2)

Lie number 2: Happiness comes when you have everything you want To be happy doesn’t mean you don’t desire more, it means you’re thankful for what you have and patient for what’s yet to come. Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to accomplish...

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True Lies (3)

Lie number 3: Pain is something you can see Never underestimate the pain of a person, because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are just better at hiding it than others. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. Passing...

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