Aggression looks and feels very threatening when we are not comfortable with our own anger. Aggression, like separation, has a bad image.
The literal definition of aggression, surprisingly, has nothing to do with anger.
The word “aggression” comes from a root word meaning “to move towards”.
Anything that is alive is aggressive because it is moving towards its destiny. That which is not moving towards anything is dead! So you can see what an important separating emotion aggression can be. Believe it or not, the most aggressive feeling and action in the universe is love. (Maybe that’s why love can be so scary.)
Aggression signals the need to take action. For example, when a child’s behaviour is way out of line and the parents subsequently are feeling aggressive towards him, this may well indicate that there is a need for the parents to redefine disciplinary boundaries.